Sunday, October 17, 2010

Random Acts of Dumbassness, Preempted

There will be no pictures or videos to judge this week. You won't see anyone making a fool of themselves for a minuscule amount of internet fame. No, today I have a very personal and unfortunate example of something that is random, senseless, and dumb to be sure.

Last night a dear friend of mine was killed over a parking space. You read that correctly. He was celebrating his birthday in an area of town notorious for its lack of parking. He got into an argument with a woman over a parking space. The woman called two male friends to, I don't know, defend her dumb ass honor or something. One of the men blindsided my friend with a brick to his head, killing him instantly.

Brian was an 18-year veteran of the Baltimore City Police Department. He risked his life everyday for a city that didn't give a shit about him, same as my husband and the 3000 plus other officers. He was a loving husband and father and now his children will never hear his voice again, never see his face again...because of a parking space.

Are you fucking kidding me? It's bad enough we're fighting wars for oil, power, stupid pride, and because-we-can. Now we're fighting wars over parking? Is doing five minutes of exercise you probably are in desperate need of anyway worth killing over? You killed a man or had him killed because you had to walk? Really dumbass?!

I hope it was worth it for her. I hope that taking a good man's life was worth her being "in the right" about the argument. I hope that having his children grow up without a father in a world where they need a positive male influence was worth her revenge. Was it worth it, you ignorant, petty bitch? Because if it wasn't, and his wife and babies have to suffer for naught, I hope you rot in the abyss of your own guilt.

I am begging you, my friends, readers, and anyone who just happens upon this blog by divine "accident" please learn to control your anger. People are dying over things not worth dying for. It's senseless; it's violent; it's futile; and most of all it's counterproductive.

Please go to my other blog and read my dedication to Brian Stevenson, husband, father, friend, and hero. My mother used to say, "Give me my flowers while I can still smell them." I urge you to give out several flowers today. Hug your children. Kiss your spouse or significant other. Thank your parents. You may not get another chance.

And for anyone who is hurting today, I'm sending out powerful blessings of love and peace for you. Please accept my gifts and pass them on.


  1. I am forwarding your message to others. Bless you for thinking about love and not revenge at this terrible time in your life. I am so sorry for your loss and your friend's family.

  2. I just don't have the words, love. But know that I am thinking of you.

  3. @Lolamouse- Thank you for forwarding the message. Revenge only makes things worse. I think if this tragedy has taught us nothing else, it's at least taught us that. I actually feel for the woman a little because I'm almost sure she didn't mean for it to go this far. That's why it's so important for us to let go of all that anger.

    @Rabbit- I know you are and I appreciate it deeply.

  4. This story made me cry. Check my blog, I dont know what else to say. Hugs

  5. Mrs Hyde,I followed a link through another blog I read and I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you during this condolences to you and your friends family.What a terrible thing to have happened.

  6. @Mynx- I know how you feel. It took me over an hour just to write this post because I couldn't stop crying.

    @Miss Vicki- Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and words. They are appreciated.

  7. My condolences for your loss. What a sad, unfortunate and tragic story. People should learn to think before they act. Big hugs and lots of love to you.

  8. Wow. Just wow. Something similar happened in my town over the weekend. Except it was over a bag of weed and not a parking spot. And it was a hunting bow and not a brick. Pretty much same concept though. Somone losing their life over something stupid.

    I'm sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are you all.

  9. @The Empress- Thank you for the hugs and love. It's appreciated.

    @Jumble Mash- It makes me so sad because it's just so unnecessary. Thank you. My prayers and good thoughts go out to your town as well.

  10. Oh my gosh, that's insane. I'm really sorry. People really need to get their shit together...too many stupid petty arguments turn bad and end up with consequences that are so much more severe. So unnecessary :(

  11. @Irishgrudge- I think a friend of mine said it best when he said simply, "If you don't control your anger, you may do something that you can't take back."


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